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“We are our choices.”   ~Jean-Paul Sartre – French existentialist philosopher and pioneer

“The hardest choices in life aren’t between what’s right and what’s wrong but between what’s right and what’s best.”   ~ Jamie Ford, Author, Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet

WENDY DAVIS, candidate for Governor of Texas, has publicly shared two deeply-moving and impactful events in her personal life.

In her book, Forgetting to be Afraid, she reveals that she had an abortion in 1996 after an exam revealed that the brain of the fetus had developed in complete separation on the right and left sides. She sought opinions from multiple doctors, all of whom told her the baby would be deaf, blind and in a permanent vegetative state, if she survived delivery.

Mrs. Davis also describes terminating in 1994 an ectopic pregnancy, in which an embryo implants outside the uterus. Such pregnancies are typically terminated because the fetus generally cannot survive, and the mother’s life is at risk.

Senator Davis felt so strongly about keeping abortions legal and accessible that she stood in front of Texas lawmakers on June 25, 2013 and filibustered—for almost 13 hours without a bathroom break—the draconian abortion legislation that was to be voted on in that session. Though she was successful that day, the legislation was passed during a special session called by Governor Rick Perry for just that purpose, and signed by him on July 18, 2013.

(The effects of the passage of that law can be found here: http://www.lilithfund.org/new-laws/)

Her opponent in the Texas Governor’s race, Greg Abbott, has taken the high road and stated, “The unspeakable pain of losing a child is beyond tragic for any parent. As a father, I grieve for the Davis family and for the loss of life.”

It is difficult for even anti-choice politicians to find fault in having a medical procedure that saves a mother’s life and terminates a fetus that will never be viable outside the womb.

WENDY DAVIS’ SECOND PERSONAL DISCLOSURE revealed that her mother almost killed herself and her children because of depression after divorcing her husband—Wendy’s father.

At the time, Davis’ mother was in her 20s, with three children, aged five and under.

Her mother became depressed after Wendy’s birth and when, after the divorce, her husband remarried. Wendy’s mother felt all alone.

“She almost took her life and ours,” Mrs. Davis told Good Morning America co-anchor Robin Roberts this morning (9/8/2014.)

She told Robin that her mother put her children in the trunk of the car because “she couldn’t imagine leaving the world and leaving us behind….She had intended to start the car in the garage,” Wendy said. “And an angel came into our lives that day. A neighbor who had never come to our home before rang the bell. And he sat in the living room. He held my mother’s hand. He talked to her for quite a long time. And by the time he left, she was through it. And she came and collected us from the car and put one foot in front of the other and pushed on for all of us, and did a beautiful job of it.”

If you have had any such personal “angel” experience, you know how powerful and life-transforming it can be. How wonderful that this was the case in Wendy’s mother’s life, because today we have Wendy Davis, an indefatigable, sympathetic, resourceful, courageous Harvard Law School graduate fighting for women’s continued right to make their own choices about their reproductive health.

Thank you, Wendy, for sharing your story about your mother’s choice to live and to let her children live.

And thank you for sharing the poignant story of your own choice to terminate two life-threatening pregnancies.

Quality of life really is all about having the freedom to make choices, isn’t it?

Rebecca Warner’s educational and professional background was in finance and banking in Miami, Florida. After she and her husband moved to the beautiful mountains of North Carolina, Rebecca began writing articles for several local periodicals. Drawing upon her many years of advising the lovelorn and successful matchmaking, she also wrote a romance-and-relationship advice column. In 2014, she published her first book, Moral Infidelity, which won the Bronze Medal in the Readers’ Favorite 2015 International Book Awards’ thriller category, and Top 10 Honorable Mention in the 2015 Great Southeast Book Festival. Her second novel, Doubling Back To Love, was solicited for inclusion in a ten-novel romantic anthology, and her third book, He’s Just A Man, is a non-fiction self-help book for women seeking a mate. Rebecca is a convivial feminist who blogs on her own sites and for The Huffington Post about topics of interest to women. She enjoys participating in podcasts and forums about women’s social, economic and political issues. Please visit her website at www.rebeccajwarner.com to learn more about her books, catch up on her blogs--including those published on Huff Post--and to hear her podcasts.